The Yes and the No

I had some feedback on last week’s post that indicated I’m not the only people pleaser around!  Here’s what some other people are saying about learning to say no: http://lifehacker.com/5875337/how-to-say-no-without-being-an-asshole http://zenhabits.net/say-yes/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/201311/the-power-no People pleasing is connected to several other pieces of interpersonal functioning, like boundaries, power, authenticity and integrity. The inability to say yes is […]

Needs 2: Care and Feeding of the Elephant

I was absent last week in order to take a trip back to Colorado and finish selling my house. On the road, I thought about my last blog  and the second part of coming to terms with needs. Discovering, admitting and identifying one’s needs is, alas, just the beginning of what I suspect is a […]

Nothing for Fear

Last week I came down the steep stairs from my little attic aerie, sat in a chair in the living room and cried while I asked my partner if he thought I would ever have a less effortful experience of life. It’s not that anything was really wrong. What I was feeling was an old, […]