The Yes and the No

I had some feedback on last week’s post that indicated I’m not the only people pleaser around!  Here’s what some other people are saying about learning to say no: http://lifehacker.com/5875337/how-to-say-no-without-being-an-asshole http://zenhabits.net/say-yes/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/201311/the-power-no People pleasing is connected to several other pieces of interpersonal functioning, like boundaries, power, authenticity and integrity. The inability to say yes is […]

Don’t Be Where the Blow Lands

My partner has trained in Aikido, and he relates hearing the above advice years ago from his teacher. Ever since he repeated it to me, I’ve been turning it over in my mind. We lately found a Tai Chi teacher and joined a class. I’ve wanted to do Tai Chi for a long time, and […]

Needs 2: Care and Feeding of the Elephant

I was absent last week in order to take a trip back to Colorado and finish selling my house. On the road, I thought about my last blog  and the second part of coming to terms with needs. Discovering, admitting and identifying one’s needs is, alas, just the beginning of what I suspect is a […]