The Limits of Expectations

Last week I wrote about stories.  This week I want to discuss a powerful element embedded in the stories  we tell ourselves—the element of expectations. This subject is too big and complicated for me to address in a single blog.  It touches on parenting, every aspect of relationship, and really every aspect of our experience, […]

Something Needs to Change

That feeling that something has to change … or else. We’ve all felt it at one time or another. Some people seem to feel it all the time. Here’s the thing about insisting on change: the world will not change for you. Other people will not change for you. If you’re unhappy with the status […]

Unraveling Intimacy

On an impulse, I Googled “intimacy” this week. My partner and I frequently talk about connection, and I think a great deal about relationships, past and present, trying to understand the psychological dynamics of being human. I expected a simple definition. I found a lot more than that. The older I get, the more disgusted […]